Among my lesbian friends, "family," means that you belong to the family of gay culture. Thus, a sister is code for lesbian. Why I felt it relevant to point this out in conversation is lost to history, but I believe making the distinction must have been pertinent to the conversation, since I am not in the habit of outing my friends and acquaintances.
However, the aforementioned comment about my friend, the sister, was met with a cold stare from my conversational partner.
"I'm sorry," she said. "But what does your friend being African American have to do with anything?"
Sometimes, I wish the stuff I made up was this good.
photo, Neke Moor